Get to Know Mary: An adoption story

In January 2007, my co-worker, Tony Cano (previous City of Goshen Building Inspector), came to me and asked if I would consider adopting a child that he and his wife had been fostering. Their family had taken this baby girl home from the hospital in November 2005, and were searching for an adoptive family.

Tony knew my husband Steve and I had been struggling with infertility.

john 13:7

john 13:7

Infertility.

One word that creates so many emotions for some men and women. Many times I had felt completely inadequate, and questions or frustrations would fill my heart:

Why could other women be blessed with the gift of a child and not me?
Friend after friend would get pregnant...why not me? 

And here - all the sudden - a child was being placed into my life. I couldn't believe it...God had been hearing my prayers all along!

STEVE AND ME ON THE DAY WE BROUGHT OLIVIA HOME

STEVE AND ME ON THE DAY WE BROUGHT OLIVIA HOME

The adoption process.

After a mountain of paperwork, background checks, hours of foster parent training, and a full house inspection, we were finally approved to be foster parents. We began the transition of Miss Olivia in June 2007. 

WITH TONY CANO AND HIS FAMILY ON ADOPTION DAY

WITH TONY CANO AND HIS FAMILY ON ADOPTION DAY

The day she came home.

Nothing could have prepared me for the day we brought Miss Olivia to her FOREVER HOME. My husband Steve and I were full of so many emotions: 

EXCITEMENT that God had blessed us with a little girl;
SADNESS for the foster family (because we felt like we were taking their baby);
FEAR of the unknown with regards to the birth parents and the judge's decision to terminate parental rights;
and so much more. 
OLIVIA AT THE OLD BAG FACTORY IN GOSHEN

OLIVIA AT THE OLD BAG FACTORY IN GOSHEN

The first year.

There were many ups and downs within the following year. But finally, on June 27, 2008, Miss Olivia became AN OFFICIAL MEMBER OF THE CRIPE FAMILY! It goes without saying that we couldn’t imagine life without her.

Thank you, Tony, for helping to bring Olivia into our lives. Our family is forever changed.

And, if you're out there going through a similar struggle - know that there is HOPE.

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Mary Cripe

As the City of Goshen Civil Engineer, I am confronted on a daily basis to make decisions that move our city forward and provide for its hardworking citizens. I have gratefully accepted this responsibility to serve you for more than 13 years. I have firsthand knowledge of what it means to be mayor and the very difficult decisions that come along with this significant leadership role. I have a solid understanding of what is required for the efficient operations of our city. I ask for your vote on November 3rd - it would be an honor to serve you in this new capacity.